My husband is an enigma. He could fit into several Love Language categories.

They say you speak your own love language. If that is so, then my husband’s love language is Gifts. But he could also be Touch, Acts of Service, and Words of Affirmation. Because he is good at all of those.

He is definitely a gift giver. He loves to shop for other people and he does it well and would make an excellent personal shopper. 

If your love language is Gifts then you feel loved when people give you something. It doesn’t have to be big or expensive.  

The greatest gift was given many years ago just for you. You should feel so much love.

The song below says it perfectly.

“The story of amazing love. The light of the world given for us. Noel”.

John 3:16New International Version (NIV)
16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

Matthew 7:11New International Version (NIV)

11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
Merry Christmas!

Here is my gift giver.  We celebrate our 28th wedding anniversary on New Years Eve.

I’m obsessed with the FYI TV show Married at First Sight–a reality show that “scientifically” matches couples who will not meet each other until they are in front of the minister at their wedding.

I want these marriages to work, because I believe marriage is holy.

In his book THE GOSPEL ACCORDING TO MOSES, Athol Dickson says 

“What if  men, women, and the third thing we become when joined together–the “one flesh”–are somehow meant to be an earthly image and likeness of the three persons of God?”

So, what does my obsession with Married at First Sight have to do with the Five Love Languages series I started in my previous post? 

Sonia and Nick (Sonic) quickly became my favorite couple in this latest six week “experiment”. Early on Sonia made it clear that her love language was words of affirmation. She needed to hear that she was special, appreciated and pretty. If she didn’t get those things from Nick, then she would not feel loved–her emotional love tank would not be filled. Harsh words, in particular, can be devastating, as we saw when Nick lashed out saying he didn’t find Sonia attractive. Her response was to move out, because she did not feel loved and probably at that moment hated Nick. 

If your “Love Language” is Words of Affirmation you want to hear of your worth and beauty, but maybe you’re not hearing those things from the people you love. 

Know this–God shows his love for you in these words:

1 Peter 2:9New International Version (NIV)

9 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.

1 John 3:1New International Version (NIV)

3 See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.

Psalm 45:11New International Version (NIV)

11 Let the king be enthralled by your beauty;

    honor him, for he is your lord.

2 Corinthians 6:18New International Version (NIV)

18 And,
“I will be a Father to you,

    and you will be my sons and daughters,

says the Lord Almighty.”[a]

Romans 9:24-26New International Version (NIV)

24 even us, whom he also called, not only from the Jews but also from the Gentiles? 25 As he says in Hosea:
“I will call them ‘my people’ who are not my people;
    and I will call her ‘my loved one’ who is not my loved one,”[a]

26 and,

“In the very place where it was said to them,
    ‘You are not my people,’

    there they will be called ‘children of the living God.’”[b]

Song of Songs 1:15-16New International Version (NIV)


15 How beautiful you are, my darling!

    Oh, how beautiful!

    Your eyes are doves.


16 How handsome you are, my beloved!
    Oh, how charming!

    And our bed is verdant.

Each year I choose a passage of scripture to meditate on each day–the same verses every day.

I wanted to imprint it on my mind like a TV or computer monitor would imprint a picture if the same picture remained frozen on the screen for a long time.

I started in 2014 with Psalm 23 — the Good Shepherd verses. In 2015 I chose Psalm 139. I’m still meditating on Romans 8: 38-39 for 2016.

It recently occurred to me that the verses I chose to read every day spoke to me because it revealed how God shows his love for me in my love language.

I wrote about my love language in a previous post.  I feel loved when someone wants to spend time with me. This is called “Quality Time” in the book  THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman.

God wants to spend time with me. His Word tells me so.

Stay tuned for future posts. I plan to share passages that meet the other love languages. Maybe you’ll find love in the pages of the Bible.

Psalm 23

4 Even though I walk

through the darkest valley,[a]

I will fear no evil,

    for you are with me;

your rod and your staff,

they comfort me.

Psalm 139

7 Where can I go from your Spirit?

Where can I flee from your presence?

8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;

if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.

Romans 8:38-39New International Version (NIV)
38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[a] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

I am in awe of the men and women who enlist in the armed forces. Their bravery is something to be admired.

My pastor said when he joined the marines in 1966 that he was told at bootcamp that only 20% of the men with him would return alive. They were expecting them to go to Vietnam. I wrote a post about my pastor here.

My boss, a retired lieutenant colonel from the Marine Corps, hosts a Marine Corps birthday cake cutting every year in our office. He and another marine read the current letter from the commandant and then cut the cake with a sword.  This is always something the office looks forward to celebrating with these proud marines.

In the last several months I’ve been reading non-fiction. For some reason, fiction hasn’t interested me as much and it shows in my inability to write my own fiction, but I’m working on it.

Amongst the non-fiction books that I’ve been reading is a series of biographies about veterans.

One that had me crying was Fearless: The Undaunting Courage and Ultimate Sacrifice of Navy Seal Team Six Operator, Adam Brown. Adam Brown wanted his story told, not because of his courage, but because he thought his story of addiction could help someone else. And I think that is the true nature of the men and women who join the military. They want to help others.

Another fascinating story, Hope Unseen: The Triumphant Faith of Scotty Smiley, I discovered accidentally when searching for another book in the Durham Library.  Scotty was blinded with shrapnel from a car bomb. He has since gone on to earn a Master’s degree from Duke Univ. and teach at his alma mater, West Point.

And finally, I had the privilege in my writing career, to hear Jeff Struecker speak at the Blue Ridge Mountain Christian Writers Conference. Jeff’s battle story is found in the movie Black Hawk Down. He has written the book, The Road to Unafraid. I haven’t read this one yet, but I intend to.

The common thread in these books–faith and courage.

Our men and women in the military are all courageous, and I salute all who are serving and have served today.

Thank you for your service. I am truly grateful for your sacrifices.

I challenge my readers to read these books.

2 Timothy 1

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

My sister is an accountant. A CPA to be exact.

But I’m not going to talk about her. (Though I love her dearly).

Did you know that God has every hair on your head numbered?

Every last one of them.

He even knows how many just left my head and made it into my comb.

But there is one thing he stops counting. Hebrews 8 in the Message Bible says:

This new plan I’m making with Israel
    isn’t going to be written on paper,
    isn’t going to be chiseled in stone;
This time I’m writing out the plan in them,
    carving it on the lining of their hearts.
I’ll be their God,
    they’ll be my people.
They won’t go to school to learn about me,
    or buy a book called God in Five Easy Lessons.
They’ll all get to know me firsthand,
    the little and the big, the small and the great.
They’ll get to know me by being kindly forgiven,
    with the slate of their sins forever wiped clean.

He knows the number of hairs on your head, but he will wipe the slate clean of your sins.

Isn’t that cool? The ultimate Accountant will stop counting sins.

Matthew 10:29-31

Forget About Yourself ] “What’s the price of a pet canary? Some loose change, right? And God cares what happens to it even more than you do. He pays even greater attention to you, down to the last detail—even numbering thehairs on your head! So don’t be intimidated by all this bully talk. You’re worth more than a million canaries.


My voice is weak. And I could list more of my flaws when I re-watch the video of me singing.(like how I blink– I didn’t realize how lazy a blinker I am).

But I’m so glad that God can use even the imperfect for His glory.

After the service was aired on local TV, my pastor received a letter from a woman who watches our broadcast faithfully. In the letter she expressed how my little song brought her to tears.

But I hesitated to post the video here because of my imperfections.

But just maybe someone else may find it brings them into a place of worship of the One who is perfect.

Here I am singing, There’s Just Something About That Name with my son on the trumpet, Elise on the violin, Michael on the cello and David on the guitar. Thanks to David who put the arrangement together for us.

Church services were canceled today, so I thought I’d post worship through music.

The Church Youth Ensemble plays “Amazing Grace”.

Worship the One whose Grace is Amazing.

My sweet son is on the trumpet. I love him.



I admire strong brave people, because there are times when I’m not brave and when I’m not strong.

But I know two young people who are both brave and strong.

Zach and  Dalton are giant-slayers.

In 2010 Zach started on his quest to slay the giant.

The Doctors could not figure out what was going on in his small body. His red blood cells were being killed as soon as they were being made. Steroids and blood transfusions kept him alive.

But there came a time when he needed a stronger intervention.

In steps his big brother, Dalton, who was a perfect match for bone marrow donation.

Before he was to go into the hospital for the procedure, Zach, his parents and members of the church planned a celebration of life service.

When Zach was just a small thing he gave his heart to Christ, and I don’t know of too many adults who show such faith in the Savior as this young man.

Below I’ve posted the service in its entirety. Zach chose all the songs. And I have to say, an adult couldn’t have done a better job. The songs are powerful and spoke to what he is going through right now.

You can read more about this giant-slaying quest on his Caring Bridge Page:

Whom Shall I Fear

I’ve confessed that I have slight prepping tendencies.

I happened upon these videos which I think are a great introduction to preparing for different disaster scenarios.

The biggest disaster is to live with the weight of sin. But it is the easiest disaster to avoid, because we don’t have to do anything about it. It was all done for us. Jesus took the weight of our sin with him on the cross. He paid the penalty for our sin. And all we have to do is accept that he did and receive the forgiveness that only He can offer. It is simple really.

Engineer775  mentions that the US is not mentioned in Bible prophecies. I’d like to think that it is because most of the country will be raptured. Those that put their faith in Jesus will be one of those raptured. I wouldn’t want to be LEFT BEHIND.

On this, my last day of vacation, I finished reading Julie Klassen’s novel, The Tudor’s Daughter, and, I have to say, I enjoyed it immensely.

The novel contains several elements of a couple of my favorite stories — the gothic romantic suspense of Jane Erye by Charlotte Bronte and the misguided infatuation toward a younger brother found in the movie, Sabrina (starring Harrison Ford).

The novel also had elements from a movie that starred Tom Cruise, though I will not say which one, because then you’d definitely know the secret the family at Ebbington Manor is trying to hide. Definitely.

When I read novels such as this I wonder why I even bother to write, because I’m not in the same league.

Did you catch the clue I left in one of the preceding paragraphs?

See the book trailer here:


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